A man abandons responsibility by expecting that his woman will always make her own decisions and then be accountable for the results.
This expectation is a withholding of his masculine gift. It puts a woman in the position of magnifying her own masculine.
It is good for some women to learn to animate their masculine capacity to make a decision and stick with it. But if a man abnegates his responsibility to provide his woman with the gift of masculine clarity and decisiveness, then she will become chronically sharp, angular, and distrustful of his love.
She will cease surrendering in love with him, cease trusting his masculine capacity, and, instead, become her own man.